Gov. Jerry Brown has signed a bill into law that makes California the first in the nation to have a clear definition of when people agree to sex. The law goes further than the common “no means no” standard, which has been blamed for bringing ambiguity into investigations of sexual assault cases.

The new law seeks both to improve how universities handle rape and sexual assault accusations and to clarify the standards, requiring an “affirmative consent” and stating that consent can’t be given if someone is asleep or incapacitated by drugs or alcohol.

"Lack of protest or resistance does not mean consent," the law states, "nor does silence mean consent. Affirmative consent must be ongoing throughout a sexual activity and can be revoked at any time."

The state Senate unanimously approved the “yes means yes” bill Thursday sponsored by, Sen. Kevin de Leon (D-Los Angeles). “With one in five women on college campuses experiencing sexual assault, it is high time the conversation regarding sexual assault be shifted to one of prevention, justice, and healing,” Sen. de Leon said, as the Associated Press reported.  

Critics of the legislation have argued that it presumes guilt on the accused and that the State is setting themselves up for legal troubles as it shouldn’t be able to regulate consent between two sexual adults. But supporters, including Sofie Karasek, an activist who sought changes in how the University of California-Berkeley handles such cases, say that it’ll be helpful to define consent and set standards across campuses. “It does change the cultural perception of what rape is,” Karasek told the Mecury-News. “There’s this pervasive idea that if it’s not super violent then it doesn’t really count.”

In addition to the legislation defining consent, the bill requires training for faculty reviewing complaints so that victims are not asked inappropriate questions when filing complaints. The bill also requires access to counseling, health care services and other resources.

No matter how many yeses a woman gives, just one “no” should still be more than enough to stop an unwanted sexual advance, do you think this new bill will help change rape culture on college campuses?

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So I have been thinking lately and my thought process has been sparked during a shoot not too long ago. Why do they look for skinny boyish looking male models in hi-fashion? Female models look young because women aspire to be young. Men on the other hand aspire to be muscled and masculine and therefore don’t look up to skinny clean shaven boys. Vice versa, which 17 year old boy is going to buy a Gucci or a Prada suit that costs 3000 dollar? #returnofthemalesupermodel #soulartistmanagement #photographer @rickdaynyc #ishablaaker (at Soho Shopping District)

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Why We’re Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us

Mind Body Green writes:

I’m asked this question all the time: "Why am I attracted to people who are wrong for me?" And the answer is quite simple, actually:

Because your wounded self is doing the attracting.

Now, I know the term “wounded self” can sound a little intense, so let me explain. We all have two selves: the “little self” (or the wounded self, the ego) and the “Spiritual Self” (the higher self, adult self, or soul).

The wounded self is the part of you that feels incomplete. It questions your worth and value; it doesn’t feel whole, or it feels flawed in some way. My wounded self is the “little me” who wonders if I’m truly lovable.

On the other hand, we also have a Spiritual Self. This is your higher self, your soul. It’s the part of you that’s connected to love, truth, wisdom and peace within. Your Spiritual Self knows, without a doubt, how lovable and valuable you are. In many ways, it’s the opposite of the ego.

At any given time, we are operating from one of these two selves. Many of us, unfortunately, operate from the viewpoint of the ego most of the time. That is, we believe we’re insignificant and powerless in some way, and we’re trying to make up for this lack.

The ego looks for things on the outside to find validation and completion. It believes once it gets more (money, a better partner, a better job, a better house, more vacations, etc…) it will finally be happy.

But … it’s never happy. Not for long, anyway. Because the ego’s very nature is to feel incomplete. Therefore when you live through the perspective of your ego, you’re destined to feel like something’s missing. Life through this lens is not very fun.

The ego gets highly activated when it comes to romantic relationships, because relationships are where we hold the most wounding.

Read the rest here.

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